good food for thought

A thoughtful article about this subject that is so much easier defining what it is not than what it is.
Here are my favorite parts. 

On Friendship

Friendship is more like beauty or art, which kindles something deep within us and is “appreciated for its own sake.”

It’s not about what someone can do for you, it’s who and what the two of you become in each other’s presence.
“The notion of doing nothing but spending time in each other’s company has, in a way, become a lost art,” replaced by volleys of texts and tweets, Mr. Sharp said. “People are so eager to maximize efficiency of relationships that they have lost touch with what it is to be a friend.”

By his definition, friends are people you take the time to understand and allow to understand you. 

So it’s worth identifying who among the many people you encounter in your life are truly friends. Who makes time for you? Whose company enlivens, enriches and maybe even humbles you? Whom would you miss? Who would miss you? While there is no easy or agreed upon definition, what friendships have in common is that they shape us and create other dimensions through which to see the world. This can be for better or worse depending on whom we choose as friends. 

As the saying goes, “Show me your friends and I will show you who you are.”

by Kate Murphy via {ny times}
image via {pinterest}


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